I should have never dated Kyle Jacob Tarvin. We always did everything together. I would have sworn to anyone that we were going to get married. But I was wrong, so very wrong.
It was about a week before Valentine’s Day and my friend Michael wanted me to meet his friend Kyle. I met him at McDonald’s for the first time. He was nice but I didn’t think anything would happen between the two of us. Then one thing led to another and we were going on our first date on Valentine’s Day. I really liked him at this point and was excited to see where our relationship was going to go. By the end of the night my relationship status was changed from single to in a relationship on Facebook. I was dating Kyle Jacob Tarvin.
From that moment on all I could think about was Kyle. We barely went a day without seeing each other and when we did it was like torture. When we weren’t together we were texting or calling each other. Kyle was the most respectful guy I had ever met. He held doors open for me, left me notes, brought me flowers and candy, took me on surprise adventures and many more romantic things that any girl would be ecstatic about. To me Kyle was the ultimate prize and I was the luckiest girl in the world.
Of course there is never a perfect guy and never will be. Every guy has his faults. They all have ghosts in their closets that are just waiting to pop out and ruin a girl’s fairy tale. Kyle was going to take me somewhere and surprise me one night so I drove over to his house to meet him. He got in my car and started to cry. “Sarah, I know that you are going to be really upset but I have to tell you something. Please don’t break up with me.” Oh great, I thought to myself. I knew he was too good to be true. “Torii and I had sex when we were dating.” Silence fell over the car. I was speechless. I was hurt because he lied to me and angry because tonight was going to be such a special night and he ruined it. I had never felt so low in my life. He tried to get me to say something for almost an hour but I couldn’t say anything. My heart was in too much pain. It may not seem like a big deal to a lot of people but he knew that saving sex until marriage was a huge deal to me. I tried to hold them back but the tears just came rushing down my burning red cheeks. I decided I couldn’t even hang out with him that night because I was so furious. This was the first stepping stone in our relationship.
Although this made me angry I got over it. Forgiveness is key in a good relationship. We went back to our normal, happy routine. We fought sometimes, but it was always stupid, nagging one another about useless things. Let’s get back to the ex-girlfriend: Torii Thomas. Oh how I absolutely loathed that name. She was the one thing that was keeping us from reaching our full potential in the relationship. She never got over him and she didn’t let him forget it either. She texted him all the time and this made me livid. Kyle portrayed Torii are being insane: 100% mentally ill. I believed him and so did everyone else. What happened next, as a result, shocked me and all of his friends.
I was at my friend Lizzie’s house working on a project when I got a call from Kyle telling me that he needed to talk to me. He was freaking out so I went to meet him. The rest of the night was a blur of emotions all bundled together. As I sat there Kyle proceeded to tell me that he was still in love with Torii. (Keep in mind we had been dating for over six months) This was the second lowest point in my life. I told him how much I loved him and reminded him of how crazy she was and how we were meant to be together. The night ended by me thinking it was just a phase. He was going to sleep on it and realize that he was just freaking out and everything would go back to normal. The next day at his work I sat in my car and begged him not to leave me for her. But it didn’t work and he broke up with me. The first two lowest points in my life had been bumped down a notch and this one moment was front and center on the list. I honestly felt like my world was crashing down. I planned on marrying this guy. I don’t care how crazy that sounds, it was true. When I am set on something there isn’t much of anything I will let stand in my way. But this was something that was out of my control.
Fast forward a few weeks and guess who changed his mind? You guessed it, Kyle Jacob Tarvin. The small stepping stone in our relationship had evolved into a medium sized rock, but I could handle rocks. I forgave him right away because he was my “soul mate.” Things went back to normal for a few months but not for long. His romantic gestures stopped. We got into a fight almost every night. Things were different but I didn’t give up. I knew it was just a phase. Guess who was wrong again? You guessed it, me. The next excuse Kyle gave me was that he didn’t know what he wanted and he needed some time to think things through. But another ghost slipped out of his closet and I found out that he had cheated on me with Torii in the first two months that we had been dating and he never told me. He hid that from me for almost a year. I used to always say, “If a guy ever cheats on me I am out of there! No one can treat me like that and get away with it!” Easier said than done. At that moment in my life I didn’t care what it took, I wasn’t going to let him slip thru my fingers again. But I did and we broke up for the second time. At this time the small stepping stone had already evolved into a medium sized rock and now was slowly shaping into a boulder.
I wonder if anyone ever learns their lesson once or if it takes them as many tries as it took me? You already know that we ended up going out again. Once again, it was good for a few months but then gradually got bad again. This time it was a week before my senior prom and Kyle decided that he didn’t want to go out anymore. So we broke up and I didn’t have a date for my own prom. But I found one last minute and made the most out of it. This time it was over. I was done with being treated like crap when all I did was give to the relationship. We didn’t speak for the whole summer.
My life was good until something major happened in my family. Kyle was still my friend and I used to tell him everything so he was the only one I felt like I could go to for advice. We met up for lunch. One thing led to another and all of our feelings for one another came rushing back. He promised that it wouldn’t happen again and that he loved me. I fell for it and that was the last time I fell for his lies and will ever fall for them.
It is now October of 2010. I have officially, 100% gotten over Kyle Jacob Tarvin. Torii and I have become good friends and discovered that he is self centered and immature and we deserve way better than a guy like him. I could go on for days about what I have learned from this experience, but I won’t. I have grown from it and I know now that there are numerous good guys out there who will treat me the way I deserve to be treated. But there is a catch. The catch is that I cannot jump at the first guy who makes a move on me. I need to be self disciplined and set boundaries. Once I do this I will find the perfect guy for me it just requires a lot of patience. I will never settle for second best again because I am a princess and princesses deserve nothing less than royalty. I might be good enough for every guy, but not every guy is good enough for me.
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